All fair points, I just got a bit fed up because of how pushy and self-righteous some of these people are. If they were so sure that they had it all figured out I doubt they'd be so strident.
BTW, I was saying Jay is high IQ *by PUA standards*. Apart from the womanizing, he seems like your typical Asian software engineer (he was working class until 2020 or so and then taught himself how to code).
For me, though it may sound silly, the biggest hurdles with womanizing are:
1/ logistical
2/ desire
On point 1, most of the women I meet who would be open to hookups live in the city and for the most part I don't want to go there other than when I have some specific business there. I don't want to be there, for example, on Saturday nights with no other purpose than to go out to a bar or restaurant or w/e. If a girl invited me over, maybe.
On 2, I'm not so worried about being unable to please women in bed, but I find it hard to get motivated to seek them out. I don't want to pay for what others got for free, I don't want stds, and I don't want to put up with a lot of drama and BS; all of which can be issues with the sort of girls open to hookups. I don't feel such an urge for pussy that it overrides good sense.
All of this is to say that I am open to hookups in some circumstances but I am not motivated enough to make it a big part of my life. If it happens, it happens. I have had girls seek me out for sex, but I am not going to do the same with them outside of my usual routine. The PUAs who are trying to sell something will say I am "making excuses". I say they have tunnel vision and don't realize there are men with other priorities, and anyway I am not telling anyone else how to live.
PS regarding porn, I don't get the hangup our society has with this at all. The majority of people, including women(?), watch it. Yet no one wants to admit it and people are mortified and ashamed to discuss it in public, as if it doesn't exist despite being 1/7 of the entire internet today. E.g. men who watch it seem to feel like it's a personal failure and that they should rather be out getting laid, when the reality is it doesn't matter. I don't know what to do with these humans...
Prince Aleph
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