For it to be personal, she would need to have an identity with her own perspectives & opinions.
And for her to be sorry for any of it, she would have to re-evaluate the importance of group-conformity vs. personal autonomy.
It is not that she personally evaluated me as an individual. All she saw was me not conforming, & she tried to "fix" it. Then I went off & "proved" she was right to insist on conformity, because look what happened to her non-conformist sister.