I assume you do not read this comment.
My approach of understanding a situation is questioning myself: Why did perso A write what they wrote? and then Why did person B wrote what they wrote?
Then I try to come into a creative mode, what triggers could have let someone to do it. Afterwards I try to find out, which option is most probably.
I think this is quiet an analytic process. I try to understand. Not to blame an entity or a person.
Many people seem to skip the urge to understand someones action and go directly to judgment. This seems flawed to me.
And judging without telling what is good seems a void message as well.
