If you are using something only because a forum or a thread on social media told you to, then you are more of a sheep than the people using the platforms you are moving away from are. The latter are at least doing it out of a personal preference, not out of being alternative or contrarian. You don't need to be hardcore and use something that sticks to a specific social group.
Don't ask what the best of something is, ask WHY it is. Learn about the subject and see critically and you'll always find what the best project is for you. Don't walk in other people's shoes.
Research skills is everything. Read more. I think I read too little.
I once read a post off platform a while ago about how someone felt wrong leaving GrapheneOS to use something else because of (very justifiable) personal reasons to support their needs. The fact someone would feel really ashamed and negative that they aren't meeting some imposed values from some social group (over a software choice) is not okay. You can use and build what you want. This isn't purity testing. It comes across as a deeply toxic relationship between users.
quotingReflecting on this, likely given the poster, bait tweet, but a good discussion to be had:
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You should be free and able to use what you want. What's not valuable to somebody may be valuable to somebody else. I'm a complete nobody with a normal life and I use GrapheneOS, Monero, I2P, LUKS etc. like this picture says.
However, there is a different conversation to be had that you could use this same image with. Many people treat software choices like a subculture purity test. Software choice is treated like Console Wars or sports teams.
There are certain groups of people who use things simply to be performative rather than just being honest that it is a preference. It serves no relevance in their threat model to use what they have to (counterargument: threat model doesn't need to be your sole reasoning to use something anyway). Some like to believe you need to be part of a certain group and you need to follow the rest of the trends of that group to fit in. Used Linux? Now you got to use Firefox.
It's fine to say GrapheneOS is superior to something (we say that a lot). What is not fine is believing you are a superior person for using it, same with any other software. Classical FSF bros, Reddit users, and performative activists stink up discussions like skunks with this attitude. Every major project has this problem.
If I had to TLDR this, then: Don't be sheep. Use everything in your preference, not to just reflect looking like others. You shouldn't see all these and be like "I want to use all of this!!", because really, you likely do not.
